How To Love Unconditionally
“To be brave is to love someone unconditionally without expecting anything in return.” Madonna
Loving unconditionally is a commitment to love an imperfect person. Remember you are an imperfect person too. This type of love does not include revenge or purposely hurting someone. Loving unconditionally is scary and vulnerable. In reality love causes pain and hurt. To love someone with complete vulnerability that they can cause hurt in your life is scary. Being vulnerable while loving wholeheartedly is part of living fully. Love with your whole heart and mind. Be open to the magical experiences that love can bring even if it is just for a short moment in time. This type of love is worth it!
Loving unconditionally is the commitment at the end of the day to another human being that creates long lasting relationships. It includes sacrifice and commitment. However, this does not mean that you are to accept toxic or abusive behaviors. Sometimes we must love someone from a distance to protect ourselves.
How can you love unconditionally? Here are 5 ways to start your journey of loving unconditionally in your relationships.
Unconditional love says you hurt me, you disappointed me but I forgive you anyways. I love you with your flaws and imperfections. Every human being is imperfect. We can not live up to false expectations of never making a mistake. To love unconditionally means to acknowledge the fact that everyone will fail. People will hurt us. It is our decision to continue to love this person or to walk away. Forgiveness is necessary to create healthy long term relationships. By no way am I saying that you should stay in a relationship that is abusive or unhealthy. However, even healthy life giving relationships will be faced with the power of forgiveness. Forgiveness is freeing especially for the one offering the forgiveness. It can be incredibly hard to forgive someone that has caused pain in our heart. However, holding on to a negative situation and letting it reside in your heart is toxic.
2. Self Love
To love others fully we must learn to love ourselves first. How we treat ourselves is a reflection in how we will let others treat us. Love yourself unconditionally. Acknowledge your weaknesses, your failures, your mistakes. Now rise up above all those and know how worthy you are of unconditional love. You are worthy of true healthy love and commitment.
Unconditional love includes sacrifice. We sometimes sacrifice our own wants for the benefit of others. Take a mother and child relationship. This is one of the most beautiful forms of unconditional love and sacrifice. We may sacrifice a temporary want for the well being of our relationships. Do not sacrifice your self worth or respect.
Being vulnerable can bring fear into our hearts. We fear being rejected or not understood. However, when we fully open our hearts and live with openness we let more love in. Vulnerability is saying I love you enough to be open and honest even though I fear rejection.
“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage.
Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.” Brene Brown
Love with your whole heart. Love fully and passionately. Loving unconditionally means that you will continue to love this person with your whole heart not a piece here and there. Love them when they are in a bad mood, love them when they are sick or depressed, love them when they are unlovable. Share your heart with them so that they know the beautiful feelings that you have for them.
To love unconditionally takes courage. A whole lot of courage! Especially when our heart has been broken it takes courage to keep loving, to keep trying and to never give up. When we have experienced great heart break it is often hard to open our hearts again. Loving unconditionally is one of the bravest things you will ever do.
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Do you ever evaluate your life and wonder if you are living life to the fullest? Most days I feel like there are so many more places to see and so much more to experience. If I live stagnant in the same place without the intention to move forward I may miss out on life’s beauty. There are so many things to soak in, to fill my soul and to live life fully.
I’m convinced we need to live life with intention or we will miss the daily beauty that surrounds us. What does living intentionally mean? And most important how do we do it? For me I am still learning how to take it all in but I do know a few steps that are helping me get there.
7 Steps to Living Intentionally
1. Ask yourself, “What sparks my soul? What makes me feel alive and happy?” From that question make decisions and chose how you will live. This is living intentionally. Do the things that make your soul smile. What makes your heart sing and your soul shine? Do those things! Simple as that. Live everyday doing something you love.
2. Be vulnerable. Are you holding back feelings and emotions that are trapped inside you? Do you wish to tell someone how you feel about them? Or maybe you want to say I’m sorry and offer forgiveness to another. Whatever it is open your heart and live vulnerable. Your soul, your heart is beautiful. It’s so scary to live with vulnerability but I have come to believe it is necessary. Necessary for us to feel raw emotion and live it out loud.
3. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Live with the intent…..
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Healthy Authentic Relationships Telesummit
12 Experts Share Fundamentals for True Relationship Success
I am so excited to offer this FREE telesummit to my VIP list! Join me & 11 other top relationship experts for everything on how to create a healthy relationship.
If you are trying to make some true and lasting changes in your relationship in 2015, I’ve got something that gives you all the tools you need.
I’m participating in the Healthy, Authentic Relationship Telesummit for 2015 on February 12th and 13th, where 12 experts share the fundamentals on true relationship success.
Whether you are trying to attract a healthy relationship into your life, or you are struggling in a long-term relationship, (or maybe you just want better intimacy) all the tools you need are at this event.
There’s nothing worse than trying to improve your relationship only to keep repeating the same old patterns. You end up feeling bad and you don’t get what you need..
Good relationships are the foundation for all joy in life. No matter what kinds of success we may have, it feels pointless without authentic connection with others to share in our journey.
Our single intention is to help others achieve healthy, authentic relationships. So we decided to join other relationship experts to create an event that will provideeverything you need to create an amazing relationship.
On February 12th and 13th, I will be hosting The Healthy Authentic Relationship Telesummit where 12 experts and coaches will reveal how to create and maintain fulfilling and joyful relationships.
The purpose of this event is to help you live the life you really want, from the inside, with no regrets.
During this free event you will:
· Get clear on–and love–who you really are
· Hear the new science about love and what makes it last
· Learn how to be fully authentic in your relationships
· Find out what stops true connection
· How to recover from an affair
· Gain some healthy, assertive communication tools
· Lose the fear and release self-sabotage for good
· Learn how to attract a healthy partner into your life
· Find out what re-awakens desire and enhances intimacy
– Create a clear relationship vision to guide your changes
On February 12th and 13th, you can dial in to gain access to all the insight, wisdom and tools provided by the following experts:
Sarah Abell–Author, Relationship Expert, and TEDtalker, and founder of Nakedhedgehogs.com
The seven ways to create a love that grows and lasts.
The true meaning of connection
How to let go of self-protection (the wrong kind)
How to tell if you are being truly authentic
Dr. Jenev Caddell–Clinical Psychologist and Relationship Coach
The new science of love and what it reveals about how relationships thrive
The 3 key ingredients for any healthy relationship
Conscious communication tools for difficult issues such as money
Sophia Chang–Relationship Coach for Recovering Nice Girls
How to tell the difference between “feeling good” and wholeness
The only true way to gain self-acceptance
How to move past denial and control to become conscious of who we really are
Christine Hart–Founder of Living & Loving Authentically
Exactly how to take “far-fetched” relationship desires and turn them into reality
The 3 Keys to authentic communication
The healthy coping tools for dealing with stress or overwhelm
Dr. Robert Huizenga--Author and Infidelity/Relationship Coach
The 3 top motives for infidelity
The most common different kinds of affairs
How to recover from your partner’s affair
Monika Hoyt–Licensed Therapist and Relationship Coach
The 4 pillars of healthy authentic relationships
The fundamentals of communicating with integrity (ending blame for good)
What good boundaries look like and 5 ways to set them in a loving way
Lisa Kift–Therapist, Author and Creator of LoveAndLifeToolbox.com
What emotional safety really is
The number one thing that gets in the way of security
How to create security in your relationship
Juna Mustad and Justin Milano–Founders of Daily Relationship
How to live a completely honest relationship at all times
What authenticity really looks like
The biggest barriers to closeness and how to overcome them
Susie and Otto Collins–Authors, Speakers, and Relationship Coaches
Why the spark and sizzle leave a relationship and (and how to stop it)
The “Spark Starters” that increase passion
The “Magic Words” that move you out of power struggles into deeper intimacy and trust
Jane Rapin–Relationship Expert and Love Coach
See the past through new eyes
Eliminate self-sabotage to live a life full of love
Live every day as your confident, sexy and authentic self
Amanda Rose–Founder/CEO of Dating Boutique
How to attract a healthy relationship into your life
The secrets of true self love
5 ways to create a life you love
Dr. Gina Senarighi— PhD, MFT, CDWF, relationship coach, couples counselor
3 myths about conflict in relationships (and 3 ways to stay out of it)
5 questions that will help you uncover your hidden or unmet needs
The secret to communicating clearly (and being heard)
Dawn Serra–Relationship Coach
How to master the art of surrender
Three ways to get rid of “should” in your love life
Concrete techniques on how to actively receive
How to discuss intimacy with ease
Allie Theiss–Relationship Coach
How to restart and keep desire alive
The pitfall of online relationships
6 myths about passion that will take you down the wrong path
5 steps to ooze confidence
Not only will you be hearing from these speakers, you will be able to ask them direct questions during a live Q&A session.
Plus, if you RSVP for this event, you will receive the following free bonuses after the event:
Ebook: How to Find and Keep a Love That Lasts (Sarah Abell)
Free audio: 3 Steps to get your significant other to support your dream (Dr. Jenev Caddell)
One 30-minute “Relationship Audit” coaching session (Monika Hoyt)
Ebook: The First Step in Surviving Infidelity (Dr. Robert Huizenga)
Ebook: The Marriage Refresher Course Workbook for Couples (Lisa Kift)
The “kick-start your search for real love and lasting happiness” worksheets, one free hour-long coaching call, AND a 20% discount on coaching package (Jane Rapin)
Ebook on the Top 14 tips and actionable guide to Self Love: How to Create a Life Full of Love (Amanda Rose)
The Integrity-fueled Relationships Workbook (Gina Senarighi)
To learn more about each speaker and reserve your free spot for the live event February 12th and 13th (4 pm to 8 pm CT), go to this link and click on “Reserve your spot today”:
If you cannot be there for any or part of it but would like to hear it later you can get a recording anyways so be sure to sign up anyway:
Hope to *see* you there!