Don’t Social Media Stalk

Don’t Social Media Stalk

I felt like I had to put this out there because I don’t know how many times someone saw my online dating profile and then searched for my social media pages.  I think it’s totally okay to check out someone’s social media accounts, it gives an extra glimpse into who they are. However, I highly recommend not to message them on the online dating site and then on all their social media accounts and then message them again when they don’t respond… Yes I’ve had that happen on several occasions.  It looks creepy and gives out the wrong vibe.  I even had a couple guys get mad at me for not responding to them after I obviously didn’t swipe right on Tinder.  I’m like “I don’t even know you!”

So when it comes to online dating don’t cyber stalk.  If someone doesn’t respond to your first or second message or your right swipe don’t track them down on social media.  Cyber stalking looks desperate, is creepy and will not win you a date.  However it might win you a restraining order.  If you’re not getting a response from one person just move on to the next.  You’ll connect with the right person.  You can’t force a connection that’s not there.  Also keep yourself safe from cyber stalking.  If you have an erry feeling about someone delete them and don’t respond.

Also resist the urge to social media stalk someone new that you’re dating.  Why are you checking up on someone that you’re newly dating?  It’s easy to take things that you see on social media and over analyze what’s actually going on.  I’ve seen many people cause unnecessary drama in a new relationship over something they saw on social media.  Get to know someone for who they are not for what you see online.  Unless of course their social media is filled with pictures of them and their spouse or any other major red flags! Then you know just to run in the opposite direction.  Otherwise if they seem quite normal then let social media go for a while and get to know them.