They show up. They do the work and they’re the ones that find the best dates.
Every single time.
When I see people becoming the best version of themselves they are the successful ones.
They are the ones that make things happen.
They don’t give up. They don’t nag and complain. They’re patient with the process and don’t rush it.
They are the ones that have interesting dating lives and enjoy the journey.
If I could give you just one tip today. It would be to become the best version of yourself. Learn how to be happy without someone. Learn how to date yourself.
When we can achieve these things we start to attract higher quality people, more dates, and more love and happiness into our lives.
I had someone tell me that they couldn’t be happy and fulfilled until they found the “one.” I tried to explain to this person that you are your “one.” You have to become whole without someone else. When we become whole before finding our partner we have more to offer. A partner is not meant to complete us. A partner is meant to compliment us. Creating the idea that we need to find someone to make us whole puts a whole lot of pressure on another person. That’s pressure that no one should have to bear.
When we approach dating with the mindset that we “need” someone to make us whole we put blocks on the dating process. We block healthy whole people from coming into our lives, we sabotage relationships and create unhealthy patterns immediately.
This is why it’s so important to create a life that you’re fulfilled with before finding your “one.” Your one will just compliment your life and make it even better. You’ll also attract more high quality dates when you are filled with happiness, passion and gratitude for the life you already have.
I challenge you to create the life of your dreams now not “after you find a partner, after you get that job, after this or that.” Why are you waiting on doing things you love? Why are you waiting based on future wants?
Do those things now! Right now stop what you’re doing and take one baby step towards doing something you’ve always wanted to do.
Book that trip.
Take that class.
Go on the date.
Start that business.
Write the book.
Whatever it is take a step to fulfilling your dreams and life now. And as you do you’ll notice the old dating patterns start to fade, maybe you’re no longer attracted to half assers, you become fulfilled and you expect the same in your date. It’s like magic when you put two souls together that are already fulfilled. Those are the couples that make big things happen. That create goals and dreams together.
I launched a Podcast a few months ago and I just realized I forgot to put it on the blog! I’d love for you to go over and join me on the podcast. I’ll be talking about everything dating, love, relationships, and more!
I want this to be an unfiltered, raw, full of tips podcast. I’ll be bringing on SPECIAL guests to bring different perspectives, topics and expertise to the show.
So I’d love your suggestions on what you would like to hear on the podcast. Send me all your questions, comments, juicy dating stories and more! Also be sure to subscribe, share and review the podcast! The link to the podcast is below.
I love spring and how it represents growth and upcoming warm weather! I’m preparing to do some spring cleaning and declutter as we prepare to move into a new house. It makes space for new beautiful things that I can bring into my life. The thing is we don’t just have to spring clean our house, we can do a relationship cleanse. We can do some spring cleaning in our love life to prepare to manifest love.
When we make space for love we invite more love in. If our life is full of clutter from past relationships we block love. New fresh love can not flow in when we hold on to the past. We have to declutter our hearts, our hurts and our disappointments to allow new relationships to flow to us. When we do this we start to energetically cut the cords of the past and allow new opportunities into our life.
When I started to spring clean my love life I started to let go and release all the things of past relationships and also started to make room in my house. I got rid of anything representing past relationships including jewelry, pictures, gifts and more. Then I started clearing out space to let someone new in my life.
Are you ready to make space for someone new? This is how to do it:
Release energetic ties to past lovers. This is one of the most important and essential steps to find a new healthy love. Any ties with past lovers and relationships will keep us from finding a new healthy relationship. We have to release the ties to let new love in. You might be thinking but I’m over my ex why do I need to release energetic ties?
Energetic ties are made with each relationship. These ties can be emotional, traumatic, sexual, broken promises, hurts, disappointments and all the memories that tie us together. When we don’t properly let go and heal from a past relationship the energetic ties remain in place. When we still have energy going out to a past relationship in any form it will block a new relationship. The block can come in the form of not finding a new healthy relationship, repeating past relationship patterns, creating limiting beliefs around love, and creating conflict and emotional blocks in new relationships.
Make room in your home. Start clearing out clutter and anything tied to past relationships. Make space in your closet for the partner that is coming to you. Clean out your bedroom and make it a peaceful sanctuary. Throw away any gifts from past partners, lingerie that you once wore, photos and any other object that represents your past relationships.
Clear space in your life. Are you working too much? Do you have anytime to date? Start clearing time each week to find love or date. If your schedule is too packed for a little free time how do you expect someone else to fit in? To find love we have to be intentional and take action to create a life that allows love in. So until you have a date scheduled on that free Tuesday night practice self love, go to a new place, attend an event. The universe responds when we show up. And you never know who you’ll meet in the long run.
What are you going to do this week to spring clean your love life? Drop your experiences below. I’d love to hear how it goes!
Are you tired of all the ghosting? The conversations that get no where? The casual daters that seem to only want a hook up?
If you’re frustrated and not getting the results you want then a change needs to be made.
It’s time to attract high quality dates, date successfully and be consistent about finding love. It’s time to step out of comfort zones, create the life you love and step into living your best life.
Online dating can be frustrating. There’s millions of singles dating online and sometimes finding a good date is like finding a needle in a haystack. But I promise there’s hope!
Let’s make 2018 the year that everything changes and you find love! Here’s 7 Rules of Online Dating you don’t want to miss.
1. Ditch the Dealbreakers
Of course we all have dealbreakers and you should! However when a profile is full of what you don’t want it automatically sends bad vibes out there. A profile full of all the negatives gives the impression that the person is negative. No one wants to date a negative Nancy. When you have a list of all the things you don’t want in your profile you’ll have some great dates swipe right on by. A potential date doesn’t want someone that seems impossible to please.
2. Honesty is Key
That 10 year old photo might only get you to the first date. If you want to get past the first date and find a relationship make sure you’re honest from the get go. Post current photos, don’t lie about your age, occupation or interests. Just don’t lie. Why would you want to ruin a good thing by lying? Find someone who likes you for who you are not someone who likes you based upon false beliefs.
3. Kick the 3 Day Rule to the Curb
Ask yourself do you want a relationship based on playing games or an authentic relationship. If you want something real don’t play the dating games. If you’re interested in someone text or call them. If they’re interested then they’ll respond. If you’re reading this then you’re probably an adult and the bottom line is you’re too old to be playing dating games. If you want a real authentic relationship then you have to act like it. Remember you attract what you are. Do you really want someone who plays games?
4. Classy is Sexy
There’s nothing worse than seeing a shirtless bathroom selfie or too much cleavage. Again you attract what you put out there. Do you want someone that respects you or just wants a hook up from anybody they can get their hands on? Think about what you’re attracting. Profile pictures that show too much skin attract less quality dates.
5. Leave Your Baggage Behind
A profile should be positive and engaging not filled with ex drama. Don’t talk about your ex or past relationships in your profile. This is an immediate turn off. It shows that you’re not over your past and you’ll bring it into the next relationship. Talk about who you are now and take the steps to heal from your past. I promise you’ll find better dates when you let the past go.
6. Be Consistent
Finding quality dates is not magic and they definitely don’t fall from a tree. It takes consistency and not giving up. Stay on the dating site for a few months. Respond to messages of those that you’re interested in and go on dates.
7. Stay Positive and Fun
What is your profile saying about you? Come up with a catchy and flirty profile that increases curiosity and engagement. Instead of the normal “I love to travel and the beach,” talk about your most interesting travel experience. Also be sure to stay positive, friendly and fun. The people who look more approachable get more swipes and dates! Make your profile stand out from the rest and write something different.
Now go right now and change up that profile, get online and start dating! Let’s make 2018 the best year for finding you love! Let me know how it goes in the comments below. For more dating advice check out my new course Meet Your Match Online Dating Bundle where you’ll learn all my secrets to successfully date online.