I love spring and how it represents growth and upcoming warm weather! I'm preparing to do some spring cleaning and declutter as we prepare to move into a new house. It makes space for new beautiful things that I can bring into my life. The thing is we don't just have to spring clean our house, we can do a relationship cleanse. We can do some spring cleaning in our love life to prepare to manifest love.
When we make space for love we invite more love in. If our life is full of clutter from past relationships we block love. New fresh love can not flow in when we hold on to the past. We have to declutter our hearts, our hurts and our disappointments to allow new relationships to flow to us. When we do this we start to energetically cut the cords of the past and allow new opportunities into our life.
When I started to spring clean my love life I started to let go and release all the things of past relationships and also started to make room in my house. I got rid of anything representing past relationships including jewelry, pictures, gifts and more. Then I started clearing out space to let someone new in my life.
Are you ready to make space for someone new? This is how to do it:
Release energetic ties to past lovers. This is one of the most important and essential steps to find a new healthy love. Any ties with past lovers and relationships will keep us from finding a new healthy relationship. We have to release the ties to let new love in. You might be thinking but I'm over my ex why do I need to release energetic ties?
Energetic ties are made with each relationship. These ties can be emotional, traumatic, sexual, broken promises, hurts, disappointments and all the memories that tie us together. When we don’t properly let go and heal from a past relationship the energetic ties remain in place. When we still have energy going out to a past relationship in any form it will block a new relationship. The block can come in the form of not finding a new healthy relationship, repeating past relationship patterns, creating limiting beliefs around love, and creating conflict and emotional blocks in new relationships.
Make room in your home. Start clearing out clutter and anything tied to past relationships. Make space in your closet for the partner that is coming to you. Clean out your bedroom and make it a peaceful sanctuary. Throw away any gifts from past partners, lingerie that you once wore, photos and any other object that represents your past relationships.
Clear space in your life. Are you working too much? Do you have anytime to date? Start clearing time each week to find love or date. If your schedule is too packed for a little free time how do you expect someone else to fit in? To find love we have to be intentional and take action to create a life that allows love in. So until you have a date scheduled on that free Tuesday night practice self love, go to a new place, attend an event. The universe responds when we show up. And you never know who you’ll meet in the long run.
What are you going to do this week to spring clean your love life? Drop your experiences below. I’d love to hear how it goes!
It's a new year! A time for new beginnings, getting clear on what you want and making it happen in 2018.
Every year I sit down and write intentions for the new year. Intentions on what I want to happen in the new year. It's been everything from business goals, travel to exciting places, to relationships. Did you know you can be intentional about your relationships? You can manifest what you want in your relationships and create the life you’re madly obsessed with.
And if you're reading this you're probably single because it’s all about dating. And that's what I'm here for. I'm here to take you from being single to creating a life you're absolutely in love with, with the one you love.
So here's the thing... you have to be intentional with where you want to be 1 year, 5 years and 10 years from now.
You might have received a certain degree to get to the job you have right? The job didn't come without putting in the effort to get there. The same thing apply’s to finding true healthy life long love. It takes work. It takes commitment. It takes inspired action.
So my question to you is are you being intentional with your dating life? Are you clear on the type of relationship you want?
If you're not crystal clear and intentional on what you want to bring in your life then you'll bring all kinds of distractions. You'll waste time on dates that go no where. You'll waste time on heartbreak, confusion and lots of questioning about why you're not where you want to be.
Here's the thing...you are what you attract. You can manifest the life of your dreams. You can manifest the relationship of your dreams. And it starts with being intentional and crystal clear in your dating life. 2018 is the year for high quality dates, for less heartbreak, for more self love and to find the one.
In the video below I've included 3 Steps to Manifest Your Soulmate. Check it out. Apply the steps and watch the magic happen.
Are you tired of all the ghosting? The conversations that get no where? The casual daters that seem to only want a hook up?
If you’re frustrated and not getting the results you want then a change needs to be made.
It’s time to attract high quality dates, date successfully and be consistent about finding love. It’s time to step out of comfort zones, create the life you love and step into living your best life.
Online dating can be frustrating. There’s millions of singles dating online and sometimes finding a good date is like finding a needle in a haystack. But I promise there’s hope!
Let’s make 2018 the year that everything changes and you find love! Here’s 7 Rules of Online Dating you don’t want to miss.
1. Ditch the Dealbreakers
Of course we all have dealbreakers and you should! However when a profile is full of what you don’t want it automatically sends bad vibes out there. A profile full of all the negatives gives the impression that the person is negative. No one wants to date a negative Nancy. When you have a list of all the things you don’t want in your profile you’ll have some great dates swipe right on by. A potential date doesn’t want someone that seems impossible to please.
2. Honesty is Key
That 10 year old photo might only get you to the first date. If you want to get past the first date and find a relationship make sure you’re honest from the get go. Post current photos, don’t lie about your age, occupation or interests. Just don’t lie. Why would you want to ruin a good thing by lying? Find someone who likes you for who you are not someone who likes you based upon false beliefs.
3. Kick the 3 Day Rule to the Curb
Ask yourself do you want a relationship based on playing games or an authentic relationship. If you want something real don’t play the dating games. If you’re interested in someone text or call them. If they’re interested then they’ll respond. If you’re reading this then you’re probably an adult and the bottom line is you’re too old to be playing dating games. If you want a real authentic relationship then you have to act like it. Remember you attract what you are. Do you really want someone who plays games?
4. Classy is Sexy
There’s nothing worse than seeing a shirtless bathroom selfie or too much cleavage. Again you attract what you put out there. Do you want someone that respects you or just wants a hook up from anybody they can get their hands on? Think about what you’re attracting. Profile pictures that show too much skin attract less quality dates.
5. Leave Your Baggage Behind
A profile should be positive and engaging not filled with ex drama. Don’t talk about your ex or past relationships in your profile. This is an immediate turn off. It shows that you’re not over your past and you’ll bring it into the next relationship. Talk about who you are now and take the steps to heal from your past. I promise you’ll find better dates when you let the past go.
6. Be Consistent
Finding quality dates is not magic and they definitely don’t fall from a tree. It takes consistency and not giving up. Stay on the dating site for a few months. Respond to messages of those that you’re interested in and go on dates.
7. Stay Positive and Fun
What is your profile saying about you? Come up with a catchy and flirty profile that increases curiosity and engagement. Instead of the normal “I love to travel and the beach,” talk about your most interesting travel experience. Also be sure to stay positive, friendly and fun. The people who look more approachable get more swipes and dates! Make your profile stand out from the rest and write something different.
Now go right now and change up that profile, get online and start dating! Let’s make 2018 the best year for finding you love! Let me know how it goes in the comments below. For more dating advice check out my new course Meet Your Match Online Dating Bundle where you’ll learn all my secrets to successfully date online.
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✨ You let go of past toxic dating & relationship patterns. You recognize what's not working, what's caused heartbreak and you do everything possible to heal and fix it. You make the conscious decision to stop the bad dating cycle.
✨You recognize you're the common denominator in past relationships. This was hard for me! After one failed relationship after another I had to figure out why I was choosing the wrong men. What was the common factor? The answer was ME! I was choosing bad dating patterns and relationships. This is where major self love, healing and reflection comes in. We have to come face to face with our own inner issues and go through the process to create the best love possible.
✨Once we begin to heal and practice self love we begin to attract others who are healed and will love us in a healthy manner. We treat others how to treat us. So if your self love is on fire and mindset is healthy regarding relationships you'll start to attract high quality men that treat you the same.
✨Set intentions when dating. Date with purpose. Date men that exhibit amazing characteristics and values. Don't focus on physical or materialistic aspects. Focus on the qualities that will create life long relationships.
✨You quickly let go of those that are not high quality. Instead of wishing or trying to fix a man you let go because you know you deserve better. You pay attention to someone's true colors the first time because you know that you can't change someone. When you let go you make room for something better to come in.
✨You seek constant growth individually and in a relationship. Comfort zones are the most dangerous places to be.
✨You tune into your own femininity and beauty. When our vibe is high it shows through our smile, our words and it draws people in. Take time to do something that makes you feel beautiful today. Maybe a spa day, a bubble bath, a manicure...choose one thing and make it happen.
Here's the thing if you don't make the commitment in anything in life you're not going to succeed.That means failed relationships, failed businesses, failed health and failed dreams.I've been there. I've made the half ass commitment and seen dreams disappear and relationships fail.It wasn't until recently that the half ass commitment mentality hit me. Since this is a page all about relationships I'll relate it to that but we can half ass anything in life.
You can't have a successful relationship without committing to the process. You can't half ass the relationship and expect great results. You have to put your whole ass in.It's the same with trying to find a relationship. I have people come to me wanting to use my services but they can't even commit to a consultation call!They don't make the commitment to make the call time work with their schedule, they don't show up for the call, the don't show up to do the work. But they still complain about their dating life. They wonder why they aren't finding high quality commitment minded dates. They wonder what they're doing wrong. They wonder why they keep falling into the same dating patterns with no success. It's because of the half ass mentality. They are not showing up to do the work. I can immediately see why it's not working for them. They're not committed they're just interested.
You have to become committed to the process in whatever you want in life. If you don't you'll see failure more than success. You have to become committed to becoming the best version of yourself, identifying what isn't working, making the change, being committed to the change and continue to move forward. Commitment is not easy. It comes with icky "holy moly that limiting behavior is still in me" constant growth ah ha moments.
How are you going to show up in your dating life? Are you committed to finding someone and creating an amazing life giving relationship? Or are you just interested in the thought of dating, possibly finding someone?
Do some deep soul searching when answering that question. I had to recently. I had the ah ha holy moly that limiting belief is still in me. I immediately recognized that it was holding me back. I was not committed to a process in a particular situation in my life. And I hadn't been for years because of past heartbreak. When I recognized it, it was the most freeing feeling and it felt damn good to get it out there and begin the process of growth.
If you're committed to the process of finding high quality dates and finding the one it's time to get to work. Men don't magically fall from the trees. Show up, become the best version of yourself and see the shift start to take place.
You've been hurt, your heart has been broken way too many times to count, and you're stuck wondering are all men like this? Do you just wait for the ball to drop with each and every date?
The thing about dating is we've all had our heart broken. We've all experienced broken trust or crushed expectations in one form or the other. It sucks, it hurts and it can be damn hard to love and trust again. But the truth of it is...that new date is NOT your ex. He's not the guy who broke your heart. He is a brand spankin new person with new qualities, new traits and new things to bring into your life.
And then this happens...we start to look for the red flags and what could possibly be wrong with this person before getting to know their heart? When we look for the bad before really getting to know someone we can immediately set up the relationship for failure. We start to nit pick qualities, we start to compare them to an ex, we look for ways that could stop a good thing before it even gets going.
But what if we completely changed how we approached our date? What if we focused on looking for a date's strengths instead of immediately looking for things that could go wrong? If we approach a date with a positive mindset and look for the good qualities instead of focusing on the bad the whole dynamic changes. Instead of writing someone off immediately because of a superficial qualities we may find a hidden gem underneath it all.
I want to challenge you. On your next date look at the man across from you and ask yourself what is amazing about this person? Is he respectful to the waiter? Is he funny? Does he talk with passion about things significant to him?
Of course if the date is just horrible from the beginning and the date is totally disrespectful there's no need to continue to pull out possible good qualities. Just don't write off a potentially great date before it even starts.
When I was dating here's what I would do...I would focus on what is amazing about this person? What can I learn about them? I would forget about all the things that could go wrong and instead focus on all the things that could possibly go right. When I made this simple mindset shift around the dating process my dating life completely changed. I not only apply this to my dating life but all my relationships. I have a deeper appreciation for the people that are in my life. I constantly look for how they're amazing and why I'm so grateful that I have them in my life.
So I challenge you to walk into your next date thinking "what is amazing about this person?" I promise they'll feel your positive energy, the date will be more relaxed and you'll have a lot more fun.
Ready to kick boring to the curb in your dating and sex life? A relationship should stay exciting and interesting. Of course you’ll have the everyday routine way of doing things but that doesn’t mean you have to lose all fun and games. Even if the daily routine stays the same spice things up between the sheets!
Here’s 6 ways you can turn up the heat and put the spice back into your sex life.
Set the Scene
After a stressful day or week sometimes you just need to set the scene to get in the mood. Light candles, take a bubble bath, and play music. It's the little things that can help us unwind and set the mood for a great night with your partner.
Yoga is known to tone your body and reduce stress but it also ramps up your sex life. Yoga poses increase your libido by increasing circulation to the pelvic region. It also opens up your body physically and increases flexibility. Maybe even try some yoga poses in bed or on the mat with your partner.
Switch up Locations
The bedroom can get mundane. Try new places in and out of the house to keep the excitement flowing. Make a bucket list of new places and start checking one off at least once a month. An impromptu meeting in the car, the beach, or the lake. The possibilities are really endless. Just make sure that there's no one getting a peep show!
Try out the “Adult” only store
Sex needs updates and that means trying something new. Too shy to walk into the store? Check one out online and get everything shipped to you discreetly. Try out The Beginner's Guide to Sex Toyswhere you’ll have plenty of options to choose from and you’ll definitely learn how to spice things up. Maybe take turns with your partner on choosing something new every month. What's great is there's plenty of his and her options to choose from! What better way to spice up your sex life with some fun and playful new experiences in the bedroom?
Try Something New
Are you bored with the same sex positions? Kama Sutra is an ancient Sanskrit guide to sexual techniques and behavior. The guide explains various sexual positions but it also encourages a deeper emotional connection with your partner. It's definitely something worth exploring. Watch how not only your sex life rockets but also a deep emotional connection.
Speak your partner's love language
And who says spicing up your sex life is all physical? The best relationships have a deep emotional and mental connection too. When you combine a great emotional, mental and physical connection to a relationship that’s when your sex life goes out the roof. In Dr. Gary Chapman’s book, The Five Love Languages, he talks about how individuals respond and receive love. When you meet your partner’s love language you deepen the bond between them. Combine your partner’s love language with your sex life and I’m sure fireworks will go off between the sheets.
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Are you experiencing a change in your life? Maybe you're going through a divorce or breakup. The emotional roller coaster of change can be scary. It can shake us to our core. But what lies on the other side of that change can be beyond our wildest dreams. How do we not know what our future holds if we don't let go of what no longer is serving us?
"Try not to resist the changes that come your way. Instead let life live through you. And do not worry that your life is turning upside down. How do you know that side you are used to is better than the one to come?" Rumi
When going through my divorce I had to learn to embrace change. I was use to the "picture perfect" lifestyle with my ideal house and ideal lifestyle. When all of a sudden it was like everything was swept out from underneath me.
I lost my house. I lost my security. I felt like the life I created for my kids was gone. It was during that time of complete brokenness that a counselor told me it's time to create a new normal. Those words have stuck with me.
Sometimes we resist change thinking that there's not a better side of life. When in reality we're scared of the unknown. We stay stuck in our comfort zone. We become afraid of what life looks like if we make a big change rather it be a job, a new relationship, living in a new location, or walking away from a situation. Often the biggest breakthroughs are on the other side of fear.
If I hadn't lost my home, my marriage and my security at that time I would have never created my new normal. And looking back that scares the crap out of me. Because where I am today is beyond more beautiful and unimaginable than I ever thought possible.
Have faith that the better and more beautiful side is to come.